Dr. Dean Dorman
Licensed Psychologist | Relationship Expert | Author

Session Information

Individual Psychotherapy Sessions

Relationship issues, sexuality, divorce and separation, depression.

Couples Therapy Sessions

Relationship Issues: Conflict separation, parenting, infidelity, negotiation, communication, behavior change requests.

Sexuality: Desire discrepancy, sexual dysfunction, sexual communication.

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Couple holding hands
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Resentment Reduction Therapy

Do you and your partner resolve your disagreements? If not you may be a good candidate for Resentment Reduction Therapy.

Traditional couples counseling typically focuses on improving communication skills, looking at how you talk to your spouse or the "problems" that you are having in your marriage.

Resentment Reduction Therapy (RRT) addresses these issues as well as focusing on the behaviors that each member of the couple engages in that creates frustration, anger, and bitterness toward their mate. Only by identifying the source of the resentment (and how powerful each resentment generating behavior is) can individuals understand what behaviors they need to work on first.

After understanding what each person needs to do to get their house in order and convince their partner that they can have hope of long and sustained change. Resentment Reduction Therapy also focuses on helping individuals understand the behaviors they engage in that derail their arguments. This may mean yelling, rolling their eyes, interrupting, bringing things up from the past, etc. All of these behaviors can keep arguments from being resolved.

When arguments go unresolved, they build up and lead to emotional disconnection. Resentment Reduction Therapy addresses this by having individuals download and complete the "Barriers to Resolving Conflicts Questionnaire" which can be found on the "downloads" tab. This helps the therapist quickly understand which behaviors cause individuals to give up, give in, or go off in some new direction. Resentment Reduction Theory believes that when a critical mass of resentment builds up between a couple, they start to disconnect emotionally and this leads to a cascade of problems ranging from affairs to starting to focus more on their kids, job, shopping or substance abuse.